While the spoken word can travel faster, you can't take it home in your hand. Only the written word can be absorbed wholly at the convenience of the reader.
The process of reflection is often a part of hospice, it is only natural to reconcile the end of our life with everything that has come before it. Letters or cards from loved ones and friends can be a lovely way to let those in hospice realize how their actions have rippled out into the world. Everyone matters, but how to broach the subject of how someone has mattered to you?
The task of writing to someone can be overwhelming for many in the best of circumstances. Does anyone else remember laboring to get beyond just "thank you" as a child? In any case, thank you may be just the thing in this instance, a place to start as you share what this person means to you.
Simple stationary, beautiful blank cards or even "thank you" and "thinking of you" cards are good options
Here are five starters that can set you on the right path:
Thank you for...
Without you I would never have...
Remember when...
I will never forget...
You changed the way I....
These can be big events, but they don't necessarily have to be. They can be small gestures that had a big impact or simple things such as how someone made you feel. Does something remind you of them and make you smile? Have they helped you believe in something, try something new? Do they remember your birthday every year? Do they grow a beautiful garden that you enjoy looking at, are they a wonderful host? What will you miss? Thank them for that thing. Thank them simply for being a part of your life or just part of the world.
Endings:
I'll be thinking of you...
As always...
I love you...
Wishing you the best...
Thank you...
If you have had experience with this, please comment and let us know some of the things that you or your loved one found meaningful.
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